Everyone has their specific reasons to why they choose to do what they do. At the time, it was more feasible for me to stay under one roof with my S.O and it was a decision i made for me, I was happy with my decision. However, living with your S.O can be fun but yet challenging. Here a few things to consider if you are thinking about it moving in with your S.O .
This can be very beneficial since you both live under one roof. You all are able to speak to each other more, diffuse arguments better or things can escalate pretty fast! You have to make sure you and your partner are great communicators. If not, this may pose as a issue and one may just move out and cause the relationship to end.
One person is always messier than the other. Have a chart and place it on the refrigerator, so you both know whose turn it is to clean. That may be helpful. The last thing you want is to have a heated argument because someone didn’t clean off their plate and place it in the dishwasher! Also, if you notice the house it messy, tidy it up. This keeps your partner at attention next time to do the same.
This cute thing that your friends and their boyfriends do will slow down for you dramatically. But don’t fret my dear, keep in mind your man/woman is/will be at home when you get there. I suggest you try to text while away, talk to them about your day or send them funny videos from Instagram. Be cute. You always want them to feel missed. Not texting may come off as if you are happy to be away from them. That isn’t a great feeling to have.
Well, no more getting cute and surprising him/her as they pick you up or you arrive on the date scene looking fabulous. Now, you two will be getting ready together! Which can be fun. You may also notice that you all are going out less now because you all spend majority of the time together. Take outs will be your best friend.
Oh the amount of friends that would much rather not hang with you because you two are now a package deal. I suggest you have a life outside of your S.O so that when you all bring your group of friends together is turns into a house party or kick back!
Where did the spark go?
The fire between you two will go up and down, up and down and back down and up. If you all are not careful the spark could take months to light up! You have to constantly make an effort to do the things your S.O likes. Maybe send her flowers at work, or ladies you buy him a a nice t shirt and ask him to wear it out for date night. Always be spontaneous, women love that stuff! make plans for us a times, take charge. Ladies, have his meal waiting for him and you in a nice piece of lingerie, run his bath water, massage his feet. Carter to him, and watch the sparks fly!
Sex can either become constant or stagnant. You all have access to all the rooms in the house to get naughty! And for some sex becomes a chore. You don not want to fall in that category. But if you are present in your relationship and not absent minded you will notice these things I have listed and try to fix it immediately. Being spontaneous, planning a date night for your girl, whispering sweet somethings in her ear makes her feel sexy, confident and wakes her up down there! If men did more of this, women would be more willing to do things to make you happy without “nagging” all the time.
I am simply going to say this, your love will be tested during this time. You have to make sure your bond is strong enough. Moving in will either strengthen your love or weaken it.
Disclaimer: I am in no way saying it is right to move in with your S.O before marriage. We are all adults and are able to make decisions for ourselves. Moving in with your S.O is a preference and most people have different reasons why they decide to make this commitment. But I do hope if you are living with your S.O this is someone you want spend the rest of your life with.